How to heal your broken heart and rebuild your life

Introduction

Whether from a relationship, a traumatic experience, overstimulating our senses, or a combination of other avenues, many of us have experienced heart break. While some of us bounce back quickly from the ordeal, it can take years for others to recover. That’s how it was for me. I was doomscrolling while on drugs and saw something particularly mean, and my heart just broke. It took me about 8 years to heal my heart. It may sound trivial, but everyone has their breaking point.

In this article, we’ll go over how to manage your life while your heart is broken, how to work towards healing it, and some tips on what to do to ensure it doesn’t get broken again once it’s healed. May the Force be with you!

How to manage life with a broken heart

When your heart is broken, dealing with mundane aspects of life can be literal hell. What’s the point of replying to that office email when your very being feels shattered in two? Thankfully, there’s hope. You will eventually recover, and it’s ideal to manage your downswings to the best of your ability so that when you arrive on the other side you’re in a position to reap the harvest of all your hard work. Here are some tips to get you by:

1. Listen to happy music — After my heart was broken, I shifted to almost exclusively listening to very happy songs, instrumentals, etc. Chillstep as a genre was a literal lifesaver. It may not heal your heart right away, but it will make things seem less bleak and more manageable.

2. Ignore bleak media — As my heartbreak went on and on, I shut myself out of many of the old media sources I used to follow. Tales of war, environmental catastrophe, etc. may make you feel informed, but they place a heavy psychological burden on an already broken spirit. Find a no-slant news source instead, and don’t beat yourself up if you go off the radar for a bit.

3. Cultivate relationships — Speaking of going off the radar, you may lose some friends during this time period. However, the relationships you have on the other side of this ordeal will be all the stronger because they will have seen you at your lowest point and still stuck around because they cared that much. I’d rather have a few good friends than a plethora of questionable acquaintances.

4. Get mindful — Mindfulness techniques, from Yoga, Qi Gong, and of course meditation, can all help you think more realistically about your perspective and be present to deal with your problems as they arise. I don’t know if I would have ever recovered without my daily meditation practice, and my occasional Qi Gong exercises made the ride more bearable.

5. Create something — Some of the greatest art and discoveries come out of a place of pain. This is a good time to get your creative juices flowing and generate pieces of work that you may otherwise never have considered. It will help pass the time while your heart heals, and also result in something positive to show for your ordeal.

This is just a starting point. As you progress through your journey, you’ll pick up on certain habits and routines that help you personally deal with heart break. Is there anything in particular you use to deal with heartbreak? Let us know in the comments below.

How to work towards healing your heart

They say time heals all wounds. But we shouldn’t necessarily use this as an excuse to rest on our laurels and do nothing to contribute to the process. I think the best way to help the process of healing your heart is to do your utmost to maintain a positive attitude and mindset throughout the healing journey. This is easier said than done, and will take some practice to find out what works for you in particular. But just because you have a broken heart doesn’t mean you can’t continue to grow into the best version of yourself given the cards you were dealt.

One thing in particular that can help you along your healing journey is vagus nerve stimulation. In fact, when my heart had that “Gift of God” moment where it finally healed, I was listening to Vagus Nerve healing singing bowls on youtube. The Vagus nerve is a part of the brain responsible for regulating heart rate and mood, among other things. So, it communicates directly with your heart to orchestrate the choir that is your bodily functions. Who knows, by listening to vagus nerve stimulation early on in your recovery journey you may be able to heal much faster than the 8 years it took me.

Apart from that, it really is somewhat of an experiment you’re going to have to personally conduct. You can try exercising, but you may not be motivated to move around too much while you’re under such duress. Therapy may be quite helpful, if you can find a therapist you’re willing to open up to about your problems.

Unfortunately, there’s no magic one-size-fits-all pill that will suddenly make everything better when you stumbled into a timeline where your heart is broken. It’s going to take hard work, both personal and external, and you’re going to have to fight like hell to carve your place in this realm. But, I have faith in you to overcome your trials to make this world a brighter place and help bring heaven to earth.

What to do to ensure your heart isn’t broken again

This is one I’ve been reflecting on a bit lately, as I just recently had my heart healed and I would very much like not to have to experience that again in this lifetime. The best I’ve come up with right now is to be more mindful of your existence — the media you consume, the people you stay around, the words you use.

There’s no sure-fire guarantee that you’ll never experience heartbreak again. Maybe it’s part of some of our journey to experience it multiple times to really drive the lesson home. However, if you would really prefer not to experience it again, you’re going to have to really reflect on what happened to you to break your heart in the first place. How can you protect yourself from this moving forward? What can you do differently in the same situation next time? Better yet, how can you avoid that sort of situation all together?

As always, Trust God, and things will work out for those who Love Him. If I have a “light bulb” moment where I think of some particularly useful approach to protecting one’s heart once it’s been healed, I’ll do my best to remember to come back to this post to update this section and share it with you all. Until then, take care of yourself, and know you’re not alone.

Conclusion

Heartbreak can be a defining challenge in our lives. We can either give in to the pressure, or fight to come out stronger. I hope that this article inspired you to fight your battles to the best of your ability so that you can be the best version of yourself. Be careful out there, especially during the holidays.

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